had a short chat wif mum when i came back today..actually i realized tat my mum seldom nag..which makes her different fr alot mothers i noe..most of them r naggers esp to their children..but somehow my mum doesnt..since i was young i always asked her, "mummy y u dun nag at me or brother de?" she'll juz say, "nag got use meh..ur life is in ur own hands..watever u do b responsible & dun regret..i nag oso no use..u all muz think fr urself..no point forcing.." wow~she's good..keke..mayb bcos my mum seldom nag at me,i m really very willing to talk to her..everytime when i've free time i'll sit down beside her & we'll chat abt everythin under the sun..from my work,my relationship,my frens,tv serials,latest news on papers/tv,gossips,soccer matches(esp on Ars),my brother & dad,my relatives,etc..everythin under the sun..alot of pple r envious..cos i m really close to her..and fr wat i rem,ever since young i nv even raised my voice once at her..super fillial daughter..haha..thats somethin i m very proud of myself..

"MUMMY I LOVE U" even though she wont read my blog..but i juz wanna declare my love for her..thank her for bringing me up & taking care of me..hugs..

oh ya..talk abt nagging..i always feel tat the main reason nagging doesnt work is tat it has the build-in expectations of failure..while naggers hope their words will push their victims into actions,they often expect them to fail or they invite a negative response..the major mistake is the way they approach the problem..some deal wif their problem in small,trivial niggling bits..make feeble,indirect requests tat r heavily laden wif guilt..this kind of nagging is pointless & self-defeating and creates a lose/lose situation..nagging is a sign tat women wants more..

had a chat wif jas lately..i think somehow we r the same type of women..we r brought up in a way believing that we should b nice & sweet and put out own needs & feelings last..we believe its our role to keep the peace,to smooth over problems,to b liked & loved..many women find it difficult to juz come out & say
"i m not happy living like this,,i feel stifled..i wan to take a break fr everythin for few wks to go off by myself & hav some time out.."
its true..we always feel the heavy responsibility to be good & make sure everythin is fine..but jas is tougher,i m the soft one..the similarity is tat we feel obliged to b good & make sure that everyone ard us is happy..should we continue like this or we should make some changes?i oso dunno...